90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days star Memphis Smith just isn’t trying to hear about Hamza Moknii’s feelings when it comes to her spending time at her ex’s house. In DMs shared on Instagram by a friend of Hamza and his sister Rawia, it’s been revealed that Memphis feels as though she shouldn’t have to answer for why she spends so much time over her ex’s house.
’90 Day Fiancé’ Spoilers: Memphis Doesn’t Care About Hamza’s Jealousy Towards Her Ex-Husband in DMs with Rawia
One DM shows that Memphis feels as though Hamza “should be happy” that her ex is involved in her kids’ life or else the Tunisia visit was a no-go. In the conversation with Rawia, she also said:
“Hamza needs to understand that Justin is a good guy and a good father and he only wants what is best for everyone”
Rawia attempted to smooth things over by expressing that Hamza understands but the time spent at Justin’s house is concerning. She replied:
“He doesn’t feel angry about the kids or your ex-husband and you know that Hamza he understands your situation but he can’t hide his feelings that he feels jealous when you are in your ex-husband’s house”
Memphis decided to bring an end to that discussion by stating “Well, he does not need to be with me then.” She continued by saying “Because he knows Justin is in the kids life and right now he is helping me out greatly. I am done arguing. My life is stressful enough.”
It’s understandable that someone would be jealous if someone spent too much time at their ex’s house. It doesn’t help that Memphis ended up pregnant while continuing to spend time over there, so it makes things kind of fishy regardless of the paternity of the baby.
Viewers have pointed out that Memphis could merely drop the kids off at Justin’s and take care of her business if he is actively involved in their lives–which is a valid point. If there’s a jealous or insecure partner in a relationship, spending a significant amount of time at an ex’s house is going to bring problems in some form.
On the other hand, there’s an old B.B King lyric that became a saying of sorts here in the South: “payin’ the cost to be the boss.” When Memphis went to meet Hamza, she found that he had no job while in his own country, had an unhealthily co-dependent relationship—by American standards—with his mother, and least concerning: he failed driving tests.
Meanwhile, she has a job in the U.S, a dwelling of her own, and she’s settled in Michigan. Memphis went to Hamza, not the other way around. He shacked up with her, not the other way around.
Technically, she has the home-field advantage and the balance of power in the relationship is more on her side. One doesn’t simply walk in being of no use to someone’s current situation and either start making requests or become a problem to the hosting side.
I don’t know, there’s just a certain level of audaciousness that comes with moving to a partner or spouse’s country with no money or little money, sans a job, saying that they want to move to a bigger city and that they’re jealous of said partner’s ex who helps with their shared kids. You pay the cost to be the boss—or at least put in your share to have your say. Contributing to a household goes a long way.
However, Hamza has found himself in a position where people in toxic relationships often end up in where they’re separated from their family or support system. Ultimately, it sounds like they should’ve actually communicated deeply on these things before Memphis hopped on a plane to Tunisia. You know, figure out what kind of arrangement this was going to be, expectations for both sides, and what was and wasn’t going to fly once they were in the U.S together.
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